#ThisWeekinYM – Links of the Week!

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You may be familiar with the brand-new This Week in Youth Ministry Podcast … but this is This Week in Youth Ministry LINKS!  Each Friday I’ll be bringing my favorite (and notable) posts from around the blogosphere to you right here!

LINK LOVE:

5 Things Not to Say to Hurting Teens by Rachel Blom  – [click to read]
Is it Possible to Go Deep Without Leaving Students Behind? by Ben Kerns – [click to read]
3 Things to Build Trust With Your People by Justin Knowles - [click to read]
Rearview Leadership by Doug Franklin – [click to read]
Video: Kenda Creasy Dean on the Future of Youth Ministry  – [click to view]

FROM THE PODCAST — links from  This Week in Youth Ministry Podcast.  Check out these resources\partners for some great stuff!

Tim Eldred’s Blog – [click here]
Endeavor Ministries – [click here]
LifeWay’s Gospel Project  - [click here]
Dare 2 Share - [click here]

If you missed the Podcast this week, check out the latest episode [here].   My guest was Tim Eldred, president of Endeavor Ministires, and our topic was A New Wave of Youth Work!

[Podcast] A New Wave of Youth Work with @TimothyEldred

Screen Shot 2015-02-17 at 7.15.53 PM The 15th episode of This Week in Youth Ministry podcast is LIVE. We’ll be bringing these to you every Thursday.

from the description: This Week in Youth Ministry – Episode 15: A New Wave of Youth Work with Tim Eldred. Terrace interviews Tim Eldred, president of Endeavor Ministries, about a new wave of youth work! Could this conversation be a total game-changer on a global scale? Plus+ TC shares how you can become a partner with the podcast!

Thanks for listening!  And please share the word with friends online about the new podcast.  You can also check out www.thisweekinym.com – our official podcast page.

Subscribe in iTunes by clicking [here].

A Letter to Me from @TylerPerry

Tonight as I was eating dinner I was thinking about friend of mine who is having conflict with a family member.

My heart and mind began to take me to a state of frustration I had just a short time ago, myself, when I had some trouble dealing with the actions others.

Then I logged onto Facebook and low, and behold, there was a post in front of my eyes where someone was having issues with people too.

Then another.

Finally I just signed off Facebook. We all need to do that. Just literally sign-off.

Soon I returned home and signed on to check my email.

This was a personal email I got from Tyler Perry. Ok, it wasn’t personally to me … but to the thousands of people on his list. I’m sorry, though, I couldn’t help but think it was for me … and all of these people tonight. And the countless numbers of leaders that I’m thinking of who are frustrated every day of their lives because of conflict, frustration, or trouble with others. So, I’m going to share it with you (… but if you like it you probably need to sign up for his list because he might get mad with me for sharing).

Hey Terrace,

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was explaining to me how disappointed she was in people and the things that they do and have done to her. She went on and on about how upset and heartbroken she was, and has been, about some of her family and friends. She talked about how they hurt her and how she wished they would change and be better people. She wanted them to be different than the people they were.

Halfway through this complaint-a-thon, I asked her to take a walk with me in the backyard. Now, you have to know this particular friend of mine. She hates the heat, and it was a hot day. I said, “come on” so she reluctantly came with me.

We got outside and it was steaming hot. I could see that she was uncomfortable. Nevertheless, we kept walking around my backyard. As she was still complaining about people, I asked her what she thought of my grass. Mind you, in order to appreciate the grass you had to stand in the direct sunlight. She said “Wow, I love your grass. It’s beautiful, but it’s hot right here. Let’s cool off under that oak tree over there.”

So, as she started to walk to the tree I said, “No no, let’s stay here in the grass and cool off.”

She turned to me quickly and said, “We can’t cool off on this grass.”

Right then, I said to her, “But you just said the grass was beautiful.”

“I did” she replied. Then, I asked her, “Why won’t you stay here?” She said, because she was hot and the grass couldn’t cool her off. So, we walked over to the oak tree and sat there.

She said, “Now you see? This is what I needed.”

Then I asked her this question. “The grass was beautiful. You loved it. Why didn’t you get mad with the grass because it couldn’t provide the shade you wanted?

She was confused, so I went on to explain myself. “People in this world, whether they were created a certain way or became that way through life’s circumstances, are who they are. Stop wishing they will be someone else.”

I said, “The next time you get upset with someone because they can’t do, or can’t be what you want them to be, remember the grass. Never get mad at a blade of grass because it’s not a tree. Appreciate the grass for what it is. Let it provide to you what it can, but don’t expect more. Your life will get so much easier when you start letting people be who they are and stop expecting them to give you what they don’t have or don’t know how to give. Just like that grass couldn’t provide shade because it wasn’t made to, some people are not made to give you what you’re asking for. So, stop looking for it. You will be shocked at how much peace you find when you really get this.”

And the last thing I said to her was this. “You wouldn’t be so frustrated with people who are like the grass if you had more people who are like trees in your life.”

I could really go deep into this, but I gotta go back to work. Talk to me. What do you think?

Love y’all. Talk soon.

Tyler


Thanks Tyler. Your words will help a lot of people tonight.

Announcing: D6 2Gen! from @D6Family

Our friends at D6 have announced a brand-new curriculum that is debuting this Fall!
I’m uber excited to share with you some behind-the-scenes stuff here on the blog.

Here are some of the highlights of the new curriculum:

  • Every age on the same page.  Every person in your family learns the same lesson, customized for their own age group.  Perfect for family conversation.
  • There are 3 studies every quarter!
  • Amazing parent tools to equip you to win.
  • A customizable-discipleship strategy
  • Award-winning design

If you’d like to pre-order the curriculum or even get a FREE Discipleship Plan poster, just simply [click here].
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#ThisWeekinYM – Links of the Week!

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You may be familiar with the brand-new This Week in Youth Ministry Podcast … but this is This Week in Youth Ministry LINKS!  Each Friday I’ll be bringing my favorite (and notable) posts from around the blogosphere to you right here!

LINK LOVE:

Keeping Volunteers Engaged in Your Ministry by Chris Wesley – [click to read]
4 Things You Need to Do Before Youth Camp by Tim and Tasha Lavert - [click to read]
When a Teenager Stops Coming To Your Ministry by Andy Blanks - [click to read]
Do You Need an Online Dry-Out? by Rachel Blom – [click to read]
Gifts for Grads from our friends @ LeaderTreks – [click to view]

FROM THE PODCAST — links from  This Week in Youth Ministry Podcast.  Check out these resources\partners for some great stuff!

Lars Rood, guest on podcast, Blog – [click here]
LifeWay’s Gospel Project  - [click here]
Dare 2 Share - [click here]

If you missed the Podcast this week, check out the latest episode [here].   My guest was Lars Rood, author, speaker and youth worker and our topic was The Authentic Youth Worker.

Great Gifts for Grads from @LeaderTreks!

gradsI don’t know if you’ve checked out the resources over at LeaderTreks.org, but my friends there are offering some great stuff for youth workers!  If you’re still looking for that last minute gift idea for seniors, you can snag this book for only $5.95 right now (if you order 10 or more) in their store!  Plus+ they’ve got resources to help equip your students go on mission this summer and more.  Go check out their [store].

I just got a shipment of “Start Here” books from LeaderTreks for our LeadershipU experience we’ve created for our students this summer.

 

[Podcast] The Authentic Youth Worker with @LarsRood

Screen Shot 2015-02-17 at 7.15.53 PM The 14th episode of This Week in Youth Ministry podcast is LIVE. We’ll be bringing these to you every Thursday.

from the description: This Week in Youth Ministry – Episode 14: The Authentic Youth Worker with Lars Rood. Terrace interviews Lars Rood, author, speaker and youth worker, about the importance of authenticity in Youth Ministry — plus+ TC announces the big winner of the Starbucks Giveaway!

Thanks for listening!  And please share the word with friends online about the new podcast.  You can also check out www.thisweekinym.com – our official podcast page.

Subscribe in iTunes by clicking [here].

[Podcast] New Technologies for Youth Ministry with @MattMcKee

Screen Shot 2015-02-17 at 7.15.53 PM The 13th episode of This Week in Youth Ministry podcast is LIVE. We’ll be bringing these to you every Thursday.

from the description: This Week in Youth Ministry – Episode 13: New Technologies for Youth Ministry with Matt McKee! Terrace interviews Matt McKee, serial entrepreneur and tech guru, about new technologies that youth workers should be using now!

Thanks for listening!  And please share the word with friends online about the new podcast.  You can also check out www.thisweekinym.com – our official podcast page.

Subscribe in iTunes by clicking [here].

5 Ways Leaders Keep Their Sanity

Ministry is tough. If you’ve been in ministry long enough you know that dealing with the pressure of the grind is difficult. Sometimes you might even feel like you are out of balance and wonder if you’ll even make it at all.  Over the years I’ve found several things that work very well for me.  I even joke that these things keep me “sane” … but the truth of the matter is, they do.  These 5 things keep me healthy and help me stay the course. If you do these things they will help keep you healthy (and sane) too!

1. Develop friendships who are outside of your work.

Sure, you should be friends with the people you live with and serve, but find some friends you can talk to about anything — and everything. You don’t need many—even two or three is plenty, but they can be invaluable. If you only have friends ‘inside’ the church, there’s always a dual relationship. So develop some friendships in which you can talk honestly. It’s healthy. An easy choice is to find a peer (pastor or key volunteer) in another church or community.

2. Engage in Recreation.

I have a hard time motivating myself to go to the gym, or doing any sort of recreation. I find it easier to work. And binge watch Netflix or Hulu (if I’m being honest). But the reality is that I’m better and healthier when I do engage in recreation.  It actually makes me sharper, more disciplined, and helps me be so much more effective in my work.

3. See a Christian counselor.

There’s no shame in good therapy. I have a couple of close friends in ministry that I do life with, but I’ve sought out a Christian counselor several times in my ministry career and have no regrets about it.  It’s healthy to share your struggles with someone who can help you with them and doing so will keep you in ministry longer!

4. Develop a personal devotional life.

I would venture to say that many people in ministry have a hard time with developing their own personal devotional life. Here’s why:  You get too busy to read your Bible. Or you ‘cheat’ and make your sermon or lesson prep your devotional time as well. Stop that! God loves you for who you are, not for what you do.

5. Develop interests outside of your work.

I talk to people in ministry every week.  One of the questions I like to ask them is what they do with their free time?  Almost every person I ask (no kidding here) laughs and says, “what free time?”  Seriously people, get a life.  One thing I love to do is travel (especially exploring cities I’ve never been to). Develop a hobby and allow yourself some time (we’re talking a few hours weekly) to engage in that hobby. Your work is of uber importance, but if you create space for your heart and mind to engage in something you enjoy you’ll live a happier, richer life.

How are you experiencing the pressures of ministry? Are you dealing with it in a healthy way?

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Announcing Another #Podcast Sponsor!

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I’m excited to announce that Dare 2 Share Ministries has joined our wonderful team of sponsors, along with LifeWay, to sponsor This Week in Youth Ministry Podcast!

Dare 2 Share is a wonderful organization that equips youth workers and students to share the gospel and we couldn’t be more thrilled to partner with them!

We brought you the official word in our most recent podcast [listen here] episode and shared a killer deal they are offering our listeners:

Dare 2 Share’s downloadable single-session curriculum called “Youth Group 2 Go” is available for only $9.99!  Here’s a important notes:

  • The curriculum addresses various theological questions to help students grow and go with their faith. Each fully prepared lesson includes a tie in to the gospel and a call for students to look outward with how they can share their faith in their world.
  • Right now D2S are offering 3 special bundles with four curriculum in each for only $9.99! That’s almost 1/2 off of the non-bundle price!
  • Go to store.dare2share.org to check out Youth Group 2 Go and other great Dare 2 Share resources!

Look forward to more from our partnership together.

And hey, there is still room for YOU if you’d like to join our team of sponsors. [Click here] to learn more.