About Terrace Crawford

nationally recognized youth SPEAKER; a MENTOR to youth & youth workers; social media CONSULTANT; writer & EDITOR @ churchleaders.com; AUTHOR of @goingsocialbook

5 Things That Reveal The Leader You Are

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People who are always quick to figure out the type of leader you are, especially if they are to follow you. There are a number of ways that reveal who you are as a leader without you saying a word.  Carey Nieuwhof recently posted an article about this,sharing these 5 different things. I will share 2 of them here with you and link you to the rest.

1. WHETHER YOU DELIVER ON YOUR PROMISES

You never need to open your mouth for your team to determine whether they can trust you.

Trust, after all, is confidence.

The best way to establish confidence as a leader is to do what you said you’re going to do when you said you’re going to do it.

The challenge, of course, is that’s much harder to do than it seems.

Be careful about what you promise.

Be even more careful about how you deliver. It is far better to under-promise and over-deliver than it is to offer assurances that mean nothing.

And if you mess up, own up. People respect that.

And then do everything in your power not to repeat the same mistake again.

2. WHETHER YOU TRULY VALUE YOUR FAMILY OR THEIR FAMILY

I was talking to a leader the other week who was trying to figure out how much time to take off when there was so much to do at his rapidly growing church.

As we discussed this, it occurred to me that how he valued his family would signal whether he wanted his staff to value their families.

Most team members want a senior leader to go home at night to see his family.

The late night, early morning and all weekend emails actually discourage your staff.  So do the seven day work weeks.

Even if you tell your staff “you take time off, I need to work,” they rarely feel secure in taking that time off.

Unfortunately, it took me years to learn that my working longer hours communicates to the team that it’s never safe for them to take time off.

How you value your family signals to your team whether you value their families.

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LIVE from D6: John Stonestreet

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, John Stonestreet.

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from John Stonestreet:

  • The age-old question we have always asked … “Where do we draw line?”  @JBstonestreet “What is our salvation for?”  
  • “If we only react to culture we won’t have the end in mind for discipleship of our kids. We need to be proactive.”   @JBStonestreet 
  • “When we are trying to raise kids in this culture we need to know what we’re after.”  @JBStonestreet  You cannot escape culture.
  • “We are not saved for ESCAPE.”  @JBStonestreetChristianity is not an escapist religion
  • “You can’t escape culture, culture is the water in which we swim.”  @JBStonestreet 
  • “The God of the Bible does not usually yank people out of trouble but rather walks with them through it.”  @JBStonestreet  2 Corinthians 5:18-19ff
  • “There is no such thing as being on the wrong side of history, there is only being on the wrong side of right.”  @JBStonestreet
  • “You cannot understand the story from the moment, you an only understand the moment from the story.”  @JBStonestreet 

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LIVE from D6: Dannah Gresh

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, Dannah Gresh.

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from Dannah Gresh:

  • “There is no statistical difference between non-Christian women and Christian women who watched, read, and defend Fifty Shades of Grey.” @Dannahgresh 
  • “Today, families want to worship God in the way that fits them, not the way He wants to be worshiped.”  @Dannahgresh
  • “As pornography increases, sexual desires decrease.”  @Dannahgresh 
  • Lie #1  — We need to be “Normal” to be relevant.
  • “The truth is God wants us to stick out.”  @Dannahgresh
  • “We want to fit in, but we don’t want to be all in.” @Dannahgresh
  • “Teenagers do not want something more. They want something different.” @Dannahgresh
  •  Lie #2 — We can go without God.   
  • God’s presence is what we are missing.  ((See John 15:5))

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LIVE from D6: Robby Gallaty

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, Robby Gallaty.

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from Robby Gallaty:

  • “God works the best in our waiting.”  @Rgallaty  “FAITH — faithful, available, intentional, teachable, hungry”  @Rgallaty 
  • “For years we have taught people how to share their faith but we have failed to teach them how to share their life.”  @Rgallaty 
  • “Game changer in your ministry:  Baptism can’t be the finish line, Baptism should be the starting line.”  @Rgallaty 
  • “We tell people what they have been saved FROM but we have failed to tell them what they have been saved FOR.”  @Rgallaty 
  • “We have created generations of spiritual infants in the church.”  @Rgallaty 
  • “What would change in your ministry if you realized you had 3 years left to serve?” @Rgallaty 
  • “What is going to last for eternity is the lasting impact we make on the people who outlive us.” @Rgallaty 

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LIVE from D6: Edward E Moody Jr

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, Edward Moody, Jr.

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from Edward Moody, Jr:

  • “Everyone needs to know and be willing to perform emotional first aid.”  @EdwardEMoodyJr 
  • “1 out of every 4 adults will struggle with a mental health or substance abuse problem at some point in their lives.”  @EdwardEMoodyJr 
  • “Hurting people are going to come to us. The question is, “Will we be ready?”  @EdwardEMoodyJr
  • “Every chance you can pray with people who are hurting, pray out loud and by name.”  @EdwardEMoodyJr
  • “It’s key that people are part of a church where they have real relationships.”  @EdwardEMoodyJr

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LIVE from D6: Kyle Idleman

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, Kyle Idleman

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from Kyle Idleman:

  • “Transparency has a tendency to be contagious.”
    @KyleIdleman
  • “Transparency is contagious. Transparency is what connects us. It will give you freedom you didn’t even know you needed.” @KyleIdleman
  • “We can have good intentions that never get lived out.”  @KyleIdleman 
  • Are you well intentioned without being intentional. In a year, will anything have changed? @KyleIdleman
  • “You will always harvest what you plant.”  @KyleIdleman
  • “You will sow what you reap. God has hard-wired this into the universe.”  @KyleIdleman
  • “We must take responsibility for the seeds that we have planted.”   @KyleIdleman 
  • “Being intentional is different from having good intentions.” @KyleIdleman

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LIVE from D6: Lee Strobel

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, Lee Strobel.

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from Lee Strobel:

  • “There is a virus of DOUBT infecting our young people today.”  @LeeStrobel 
  • “62% of Millennials believe that God exists.”  @LeeStrobel 
  • “Teenagers are twice as likely today to claim that they are athiest.”  @LeeStrobel 
  • “We’ve never seen such a concerted effort by athiest to deconvert Christians than ever before.” @LeeStrobel 
  • “The #1 reason young people are citing for leaving the church today is DOUBT.” @LeeStrobel   
  • “We MUST let young people know that it is okay to ask questions.”  @LeeStrobel 
  • “If we don’t help young people get answers someone else will.” @LeeStrobel 
  • “We need to give our kids the confidence that we have the truth.” @LeeStrobel 
  • “We need to create safe places for students to ask their questions.” @LeeStrobel  500 churches in Chicago are soon banding together to look at the greatest objections to the faith. There is great power in this!
  • “So many people are just 1 or 2 sticking points away from making a decision for Christ.”  @LeeStrobel  Don’t forget this scripture … 1 Peter 3:15

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LIVE from D6: Rob Rienow

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, Rob Rienow.

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from Rob Rienow:

  • “I was passionate at church but not at home.”  @VisionaryFamDeut 6:5
  • “The Great Commission begins at home.”  @VisionaryFam 
  • “Family worship is the engine that powers the Christian family.”  @VisionaryFam 
  • “We’ve got Christian families who are well fed but starving spiritually.”  @VisionaryFam 
  • “There is a program that every church needs to run… its Family Worship in every home.” @VisionaryFam Eph 4:12
  • “Family ministry is about equipping at home for Gospel impact.”  @VisionaryFam 
  • “We have to first worship in our homes and then spread it everywhere else!”  – Johan, Age 10, Bangalore India
  • “The church is doing more than ever before to reach kids.  But we have taken our foot off the family pedal.” @VisionaryFam 

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LIVE from D6 with Greg Stier

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing a Podcast recorded LIVE from the D6 Conference!  

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from the description: This Week in Youth Ministry – Episode 132 – ★ LIVE From D6 with Greg Stier  Terrace Crawford is LIVE at the D6 Conference and talks with Greg Stier, founder of Dare2Share Ministries about what makes Thriving Youth Groups!  Plus+ Terrace talks with Richard Ross, Ron Hunter, and More!

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LIVE from D6: Ron Hunter

I’m LIVE blogging from the D6 Conference in Greensboro (NC).  Today I’m sharing my notes with you from the General Session and keynote speaker, Ron Hunter.

Tweetable Quotes (and Highlights) from Ron Hunter:

  • “We all have an X … a place we are going to die. If you knew the spot, where and when it was, how would you live differently?” @RonHunter
  • “Today you should begin backwards discipleship planning as you anticipate your child’s X.”  @RonHunter
  • “As families we have taken our kids to church and have said to the leaders ‘You are the expert…you disciple my family.’ It cannot happen this way.”  @RonHunter
  • “We need to adopt the principles of healthy churches rather than the programs of healthy churches.” @RonHunter
  • “Healthy churches don’t say ‘What’s Next?’  They simply redefine discipleship.” @RonHunter
  • “Scripture defines discipleship not as an event but as a way of life.” @RonHunter Eph 4: Paul talking about bringing up families

    Ps 78:6 We teach next generations

    Matt 28: The Great Commission

  • “When we are followers of Christ we are always on a journey as a student.”  @RonHunter
  • “We need to prepare our kids to defend their faith.”  @RonHunter 
  • “If you wait until battle to prepare your kids you have already lost.” @RonHunter Timothy”s X  ((2 Timothy 3:15))

    Ephesians 6:4

  • “Great discipleship reaches across generational lines.”  @RonHunter 
  • “Most church staff meetings spend their time trying to figure out how to do church better when they should be helping parents how to figure out how to do home better.”  @RonHunter 

If you’re not at the D6 Conference, please follow along on social media using the hashtag #D62018 or my personal twitter, @TerraceCrawford.